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February 19, 2014 § Leave a comment
- I hope you know if you’re queer, it’s OK. It’s better than OK. You’re part of a really cool club with really cool people who’ve done some of the coolest stuff in history. You’re not deranged. You’re not unnatural. You’re not a monster. And I hope you know if you’re not queer, that’s also OK. There have been a lot of non-queer people who’ve done some really cool stuff too.
- I hope you know that gender identity and sexuality aren’t the same thing, and that they both come in all kinds of shapes and sizes and flavors, and that if a particular label makes you feel empowered or just more at home with yourself, then you should use it. Likewise, if there isn’t a word or a term that fits, I hope you’ll feel confident enough to not use one. And I hope you’ll think about how sexism plays into homophobia and transphobia. I hope you know that whether you’re queer or not, it’s OK to be a sissy, or a butch. I hope you know it’s OK to be neither of those things or both of those things or something in between those things, or to be a sissy on a Thursday and a butch on a Saturday.
- I hope you know your history — our collective human history — and the awesome and terrible things that queer and non-queer people have done to each other and to themselves. I hope you know that we’ve made a lot of mistakes, and that you’re going to make a bunch yourself, but as long as you’re trying to see and respect and love people for who they truly are, you’ll be doing all right.
- I hope you know that God — if she or he or they or it exists — doesn’t hate anyone for being queer. And queer people aren’t going to hell because of who they are. So don’t spend another minute thinking about that old lie.
- I hope you know that sex is not a bad or dirty thing, that aside from laughing and eating cookies, sex is one of the greatest things you can do with another person (or multiple people). I hope you know that your body is yours, and that you can do whatever you want with it — and that that’s a gift, and a responsibility. You should never let anyone make you feel ashamed for having a body — your body — or for doing things with your body that give you pleasure (as long as you’re not hurting yourself or anyone else — unless they’re asking to be hurt, but we can talk more about BDSM at another time). And I hope you never let anyone else make you feel ashamed for not doing things with your body that give you (or someone else) pleasure if that’s not what you want to do. But making yourself or someone else feel good in and of itself isn’t wrong. It isn’t a sin. And I hope you know that sex with someone you love is amazing, but sex with someone you don’t love can also be amazing, and that doesn’t make you a slut or a whore (unless you want to be a slut or a whore, and that’s OK too), and it also doesn’t necessarily make you a stud or hero (even if you want it to).
- I hope you know that whether you’re queer or not, you can get married, and as we continue marching forward, if you’re queer, you’ll be able to do it in more and more places. Or, if you think marriage is problematic (and many people do), you don’t have to do it. And maybe you want to be in a relationship with more than one person. If that feels right, then do it, as long as all involved give their consent. Or maybe you don’t want to be with anyone. All good. And I hope you know that whether you’re queer or not, you can have children. And maybe you want to adopt kids. Or maybe you want to be a foster parent. Or maybe you want to raise children with a whole group of people. Or maybe having kids is the last thing you’d ever want to do. Any and all of those options can be awesome. Again, it’s up to you to figure out what is right for you.
- Ultimately I hope you know exactly that: You have to figure out what’s right for you, and when you do, you have to hold on to it like your life depends on it. And you have to let other people figure out what’s right for them and let them hold on to it like their lives depend on it. The sooner you stop trying to force yourself and each other to do anything other than what feels right, the sooner we’ll all take the next giant leap forward in our shared humanity.